Stupid Marriage Arguments: Stupid is as Stupid Does

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Everyone has stupid arguments!

Here’s one stupid married couple argument:

A husband was sitting in front of his TV eating from a bag of LAYS potato chips when he pulled from the bag the biggest potato chip you’ve ever seen in your life.

He starts holding it in the air, waving it around and bragging as if he had the made the chip himself. All is fine until his wife reached over and crunched his potato chip!

He got mad and an argument followed.

Most couples will admit to having dumb arguments. Where do stupid marriage arguments  come from?

Here are some answers, and you can add your own:

  • Telling your partner the right way to do something like how to load the dishwasher correctly.
  • Personality issues like bad tempers and stubbornness
  • Annoying behaviors like not putting the cap back on the toothpaste tube.
  • A question asked like “Is my _____ too big?” or “Where do you want to eat?”
  • Inconsiderate behaviors like changing one’s plans and not letting your partner know
  • Fatigue like the arsenic hour syndrome where arguments can begin just because the couple is tired.

The Exercise:

Can each of you think of a stupid argument you’ve heard (maybe you were in it), and then answer the following questions.

  • What made the argument stupid?
  • Why do you think it became an argument?
  • How could the argument have been avoided?

Here are more questions you may want to discuss, especially if you tend to argue often:

  • Are there certain conditions and times where we argue the most?
  • Are there some “rules” we could establish for when and how we discuss differences?
  • Do we believe that all disagreements must be resolved?
  • What do we do if there is an unsolvable problem?

If you have frequent and intense arguments, that’s pretty good indication that you should seek out some professional marriage preparation counseling not only to learn specific communication skills but perhaps also to work through deeper personal issues.

But why not take a fun break. Here’s a video of two children arguing. Do they remind you of anyone!?

Contribute to the Learning with Your Reply:

What stupid arguments have you had?

Why do you think people have them?

What’s your plan for dealing with stupid marriage arguments?

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51 comments to Stupid Marriage Arguments: Stupid is as Stupid Does

  • Matt Jones & Shelli Johnston

    Stupid arguments happen and we know it. These arguments happen b/c most likely underlying issues a couple hasn’t discussed or stemmed from a previous argument. If a couple isn’t careful, a whole bunch of stupid arguments will lead to a so-called “big” argument. When a stupid argument starts, we have to remember to really listen to what we are arguing about and laugh.

    One example of a stupid argument we had, was how to fold towels and towels that can’t be used. Shelli is grateful that she has a partner that will do the laundry and realized it really doesn’t matter how a towel is folded. Matt thinks it’s dumb to why we can’t use ALL the towels in the house but he respects Shelli’s opinions.

  • Andrew and Anna

    Andrew’s biggest pet peeve, so to speak, is when Anna tells him how to drive. It isn’t an argument as much as a a disagreement, but Andrew believes he is a fine driver, and doesn’t like when Anna tells him where to turn, or when to put on his blinker, or how to get places, unless he asks first. She is getting better at it, but it still comes up more often than Andrew would like (because we live in a terrible area for traffic).

    Anna doesn’t like it when Andrew talks over her and continually thinks his opinion is the only opinion that matters when talking about pop culture, sports, etc, especially in front of other people. He is trying his best to get better and understands that he does it, which is a good step in the right direction.

    Other than these specific examples, we also realize we argue more often than not under two conditions. One being when making decisions, especially what to have for dinner. Both of us hate making decisions, and just want things picked out for us, but we are getting better at agreeing and planning ahead. Secondly, after work, especially a hard day of work. The frustration of the day will definitely come to a head and those frustrations will be vented to the other person, whether they want them to or not.

  • thomas king and rebecca shreeve

    we do have stupid arguements. we agree though that it is sometimes best just to separate from each other and give each other time to cool off. if you don’t you risk saying things out of the heat of the moment and that is NEVER good. You can not take something back once you have said it and sometimes the things you say are more hurtful than you realized at the time. we think stupid arguements happen for a couple reasons. sometimes it is simply stress levels that can create the arguement out of thin air. the smallest thing can just set you off. being tired is a huge cause of alot of stupid arguements. if you just go to sleep you almost always wake up in a better mood. i (becca) personally have to remember that thomas is not always going to do things how or when i would do them but that does not make them wrong. thomas has had to work on his mood in the mornings because i wake up happy and ready to go while he wakes up on the wrong side of the bed just about everyday until noon. i tend to get upset with him because he seems mad but its just his morning routine of working through the grogginess. we both have to recognize when the other person is feeling irritated or under stress and work with those feelings instead of feed on them and make the situation even worse. stupid arguements are going to happen but it is how you deal with them that matters. we are still learning but we think that as long as you are continuing to put forth an effort instead of give up things normally turn out successfully.

  • K and D

    Our stupid arguments stem from one two things: (1) mismatched expectations or (2) not listening to each other. We read this exercise yesterday during the day and last night we were “arguing” about a piece of trim above the kitchen window. One of us said the piece of trim was too wide and the other one said the gap where the trim was supposed to go was too small. We went on for about 5 minutes until one of us said “This is one of those stupid arguments we read about this morning”. The reality is whether the trim is too wide or the gap is too small, in the end we were saying the same thing. The trim didn’t fit the gap. Why were we arguing if we were agreeing? Because we weren’t listening to each other. At that point we said “alright, glad we agree on that” and laughed.

  • K and C

    The typical stupid arguments of the past over who knows what and what fact is actually true are now cut very short with the help of GOOGLE. We also can’t agree how to fold our towels but google didn’t help on that one.

  • Stacy Robertson and Duane Robnett

    The most stupid argument we’ve ever had is over food. I (Stacy) do all the cooking, which I’m perfectly fine with because I love to do it. Sometimes I want to cook and I think Duane’s hungry and I ask him and he says he isn’t and I think he’s lying and I tell him just to tell me he’s hungry. We argue about whether he’s hungry or not. Other than that, we don’t really argue over anything stupid but that was REALLY stupid. I still don’t understand why. I think I just didn’t want to wait until later to cook because I was tired. I think I could’ve avoided the argument by just making the food and letting him heat it up later.

    We argue most when Duane’s just got back from his job. We’ve decided to let him cool off after work and just take it easy, and then we just don’t fight or talk about it before we go to bed in a calm manner.

    We think people have stupid arguments because they’re heated in the moment or they just don’t take the time to look at the bigger picture.

    We believe that it is good to address arguments (rather than just ignore them) no matter how stupid they are. But it’s important not to sweat the small stuff and if the problem can’t be solved (an unsolvable problem), we should just deal with it/get over it/come to a compromise since our relationship is more important.

  • Heather and Alex

    I must admit that I can be a little bit overbearing when Alex is driving. I will often tell him to slow down or turn on the lights. I should have a little more patience and trust when it comes to Alex driving. I am working on it.

    Alex leaves his clothes and shoes all over the house. I am constantly picking up after hims. Also he can never find his wallet or keys. I have a tendency to get frustrated with him because he asks me where his things are all the time.

    We know we are not perfect, so we try to just let it go when the other person gets on us for the same thing all the time.

  • Connie Noward and Barry Thiessen

    We do not have alot of stupid arguments. Most of our arguments start out with serious topics that will turn into picking on the other for the small things that annoy us about each other. For example most of the time when Barry does the dishes I just look over the fact that is all he does. The counters could be covered with syrup and crumbs and grease all over the stove but that is no concern to him. He says I should just be happy that he did the dishes, as he stated one less thing I have to do. Most of the time I just let it go but I am finding that when I am tired this becomes one of our stupid arguments. We are finding that we know it is a stupid argument when this topic consumes about an hour of our time. We are learning that the stupid arguments do not bother us the next day therefore the next time the topic comes up we need to just go take a nap. We have found that we are easily irritated when we are both tired.

  • Michelle and Jeff

    We rarely fight but when we do they can be over trivial things such as eating too loudly, being overly sensitive, not separating the laundry. These are all things that do not have a lasting effect on our relationship. Fights get started when we are tired, frustrated with prior events, or hungry. Stupid fights happen when people are overly stressed, fatigued, and emotional. Things become personal and affect each other differently. All of a sudden not separating laundry becomes a personal attack on the person’s abilities in the relationship instead of it being a request or a habit of the other person. Our plan is to recognize when something is trivial and whether we are fighting about the actual topic or fighting because we had a bad day. When we have stupid fights we talk about them immediately and not let it fester into more negative energy. We recognize how are actions are (ir)rational and how we can avoid a similar fight in the future.

  • Nancy and Adam

    We have stupid arguments all the time, but we know they are stupid and leave it at that. We will find ourselves arguing about silly things and then just stop and laugh about it because we know it is stupid. One way we try to resolve these things is to come up with a way to compromise on things. For example, we argue about me (nancy) leaving my stuff around the house and adam getting water all over the bathroom sink. I have agreed to not get mad about the sink as long as he moves my things off of it first and he has agreed to move my stuff in the same spot so I can find it later.

  • Michael and Terry

    As we grow in our relationship, the “arguments” are not so much arguments. They are more like discussions, whether they take 5 minutes or an hour. We talk about our habits, things that may or may not bother the other person and how we can work together to make our home a comfortable one for each of us without giving up our individuality. if we have an understanding of what may or may not bother the other person to cause a stupid argument, we can work together by trying to change alittle bit to make a difference. It is also a point of ours to thank the other person when we recognize they are making changes–for example “thank you hon, I noticed you have been putting your dirty clothes in the hamper rather than leaving them on the floor!” A thank you goes along way!!

  • Joe and Tara

    We have had stupid arguments that were resolved with communication. Arguments regarding leaving dirty socks on the kitchen counter, food in the sink, etc. are not worth arguing about, but are better handled by simply asking the other person nicely to clean up after themselves. Through doing this exercise, we have learned that we have silly arguments when one of us is stressed or tired. Communicating and making requests in a nice manner really help minimize our arguments.

  • Tish & Chris

    Think before you open your mouth. I once heard that before diving into an argument you should ask yourself will this matter3 days from now. If the answer is truly no (be reasonable), then keep your mouth shut and avoid a painful few minutes. If it is yes, then try to remain calm and discuss things rationally. 99% of all arguments (especially stupid ones) would be avoided if we all did this.

  • John and Jessica

    Taking sleep and fatigue into consideration is defiantly something that we will keep in mind. Arguments between the two of us have happened from time to time due to lack of sleep. Something that seems so important or upsetting at the end of a long day may not seem so important in the morning when you can rethink it with a clearer mind. I also think it very important not to sweat the small stuff, and remember to choose your battles carefully.

  • Ashley Harris and Michael Frisbie

    We think our stupidest argument tends to deal with what to eat. It may sound silly, but its stressful for us to come to an agreement and sometimes Ashley feels like Mike does not like her cooking. We have found that when we are tired and hungry are the times that we become overly sensitive-especially Ashley. We really try to speak respectfully in disagreements and if there is something we need to address we try not to attack the person or make them feel unloved while communicating what we feel needs to be improved. We try to stay focused on the goals we have for our marriage and not get caught up in who is right and who is wrong as much as we focus on solving the problem.

  • Jessica and Andrew

    Oh yes, we have stupid arguments. When we are arguing about something stupid, it’s usually not about the thing we are arguing about but about our personality differences and the frustration that comes from that. We are arguing because we aren’t communicating well and it pushes our buttons – the stupid thing we are arguing about it just a catalyst!
    We run a business together so sometimes when things are busy or we have important decisions to make, we are more likely to fight. We are aware of this and it does help to take time apart to cool off and think about the big picture.
    Avoiding resentment goes a long way toward effective communication. Don’t beat around the bush – be clear about your needs!

  • Andy & Stacy

    Silly arguments can arise when Andy gets cranky because he is hungry and/or when Stacy is stressed/tired. We have found that it is definitely a test of patience to take a step back before getting irritated over dirty dishes or laundry; however, we make it a priority to keep communication open and respect each other.

  • Katie and John

    We have had our share of stupid arguments ranging from dirty clothes not being dirty, not wrapping up food before putting it away, drinking a whole 2-liter Dr. Pepper in a 2 hour radius, and so many more, BUT those arguments have helped John and I learn each others prefrences when it comes to certain things. He has realized that I am a tad O.C.D and I’ve realized men (not just him) can have diffrent taste then women when it comes to the idea of “clean”. Even though we have these diffrences we are still in love and are learning to realize the diffrences we have so we can prevent arguments.

  • Dustin and Katie

    The stupidest argument we ever had was over a bet. Dustin bet Katie that the actor from Miracle on 34th Street was the same as the old guy from Jurassic Park. It was a really dumb argument and we knew it. We know that dumb arguments will happen from time to time and that we just can’t let them get too big. We can’t avoid each other every time we get tired or crabby, we just have to keep our arguments in check.

  • Lindsey and Rhett

    We’ve had our share of silly arguments and are pretty good about not letting them blow up into something bigger but there are a few times when one or both of us has been tired or irritable and a silly argument turned into a bigger situation than necessary. One of Lindsey’s biggest pet peeves is when Rhett asks her opinion and then chooses to do the exact opposite. For example, while driving, Rhett will ask Lindsey if he should go straight or turn right, she will tell him to turn right and he will choose to go straight. Or he will ask if she wants Mexican or Sushi for dinner, she tells him sushi and he will prepare/pick-up Mexican for dinner. We’ve learned to discuss why this happens and both of us are working to improve our communication, respect each other’s differences and prevent future arguments, especially over insignificant matters.

  • JoAnna & Dan

    We have this thing where we can NEVER agree on where to go to eat. Dan always wants the same thing, and I always want something different – and usually it ends up where one of us doesn’t like where we have gone. Its really stupid and the thing is that we both know it.

    Its funny too because we don’t ever want to go separately to a restaurant (even fast food) we have to go together even if it means that one of us doesn’t like the food that we eat.

  • Keith & Katie

    One thing we learned from this exercise is that we’ve grown…a lot! When we first started dating we would come home after a fun night out and start arguing over nothing. I say nothing because after all the yelling and back and forth it was hard to remember where it started. What it boiled down to is that we were both insecure and nervous about the new relationship. Once we got over the insecurities we got over the stupid fights. We still have stupid fights and expect to always have them but we’ve learned how each other fights and learned how to communicate during a fight so that the other actually hears what you’re saying.

  • Kelly and Larry

    What made the argument stupid?
    We tend to argue/disagree over who is the better driver. We both realize that arguing over something so trivial is a waste of time. We both are entitled to our own opinions, but we both are working on being more appreciative of the other person’s opinions and respectful of each other’s driving to prevent future arguments.

  • lacey emmons and justin cox

    Oh my yes we argue over simple stupid things the dumbest being how the wash clothes and towels should be folded. I felt since I am the woman I knew the best way and justin felt I should just be happy he was helping with the laundry which I was but I wanted it done “the right way” if he was going to help….so not the thing to say lol because ultimately as long as the clothes are clean and put away neat it doesn’t matter how they are folded and certainly not worth fighting over. we did learn from this though that it works alot better to make requests of the partner to please fold the towel so they are all folded that same rather than demand for them to be done MY way.

  • Sandi & Ken

    I can’t say we’ve really had a stupid argument. One or the other may become irritated about something, like who’s turn is it to walk the dog in the rain, or why wasn’t the dishwasher emptied instead of playing on the computer, but it’s never given rise to what I would call an “argument”. But the situations of irritation definitely occur more after I’ve (Sandi) had a stressful day at work and can’t understand why something as simple as emptying the dishwasher wasn’t done because that’s what “I” would have done. We’ve realized it’s a difference in expectations and unless asked to be done, it won’t happen. It’s not really worth bickering over. I’m high strung, he’s laid back, it’s a dynamic we have learned to accept. I suppose, in the grand scheme, we both realize it’s not worth arguing over. There are bigger fish to fry, so to speak.

  • Mary Ann and Christoper Griffiths

    We have completely opposite schedules so one of is fatigued at all times. Then we nitpick at each other over stupid things. Examples: not closing the shower curtain, or being to indecisive. We do openly talk about our ‘dumb’ fights when we are both in a good mood and open to each others answers and feelings.

  • Roy hates it when I am passenger in the car and I am telling where to go and how to get there knowing that he already knows. That is where most of the arguing and frustration comes from. I don’t know why I do it, but I do and the arguments that we have are just so stupid. Looking back if I would have just let him do the driving there would have never been an argument. I have learned to just keep my mouth shut and to let him do the driving. Another argument that we have is about money. We both have wants but its frustrating to have to make a decision on who gets what they want. Now we have learned that instead of arguing over who gets what when we just make the decision together what would be best for the both of us

  • Maggie and Jason

    Most of our stupid arguments come from one of us being tired or stressed and taking it out on the other person. One of our recurring arguments is about leaving clothing in the floor. Luckily, our stupid arguments have never gotten serious and one of us is always level-headed enough to say “Hey, this is dumb. What’s really going on?” or make a joke. These arguments usually end up with laughter.

  • John and Meg

    We found that our biggest triggers for stupid arguments are being tired, being stressed from work, and when one or both of us aren’t feeling well. We’ve found that usually a little sleep helps all of these situations.

  • Raychel and Peter

    A frequent stupid argument Peter and I have begins by me (Raychel) not flushing the toilet. Being of environmentally conscious mind, my motto is “If it’s brown, flush it down. If it’s yellow, let it mellow.” Peter however, likes fresh water to urinate in because he is the king of the universe (we are laughing about this now). So basically, just to prove a point, I continue to refuse to flush. This makes him more angry which I tend to perpetuate the tiff to something larger. While this specific argument starter may not have an end in near sight, we will work towards not letting this or other silly things escalate past joking.

  • Amanda & Nate

    After discussing this topic, we quickly came to the realization that, really, all of our arguments are over stupid little things. Unfortunately, life has dealt us a hand that leaves both of us constantly stressed: 70 hour work weeks, demanding college curriculums, planning for a destination wedding, conflicts between family members, a new home that is very far from our families and best friends, etc. The stresses in our lives work to amplify ALL forms of conflict – the tiniest thing can blow up to huge proportions when one of us has had a bad day or especially is exhausted.

    We’re working hard to reduce the stressors in our lives, but admittedly, some of them will always be there. Take away college, but then maybe children come along -a quick example of trading one stressor for another. Acknowledging that stressors will always be there is the first step for working through them. We are DEFINITELY prone to the “arsenic hour” (probably several hours in our case) that we need to realize that we just need to say something sweet to the other and leave the heavy topics for another time, if possible. We need to pay more attention to each other to realize when one is having a bad day, and instead of complaining about something or having negative discussions, to just say something positive and defer “hot topics” for a better time.

  • Alexander and Allison

    The stupidest arguemtn and allison and I have ever had was about fruit. She had given me a pear to eat and I did not want to eat it. We had one of the biggest fights we have ever had, it lasted for three days and I thought that we were going to break up all because of a stupid pear. We eventually came to our senses and we talked it out.

  • Shannon Brunner and Jason Lawson

    Jason and I have the biggest arguments come from stress either from work or having the kids screaming and fighting especially in the car.We have realized that getting out and doing stuff with the kids help or if we are at home and they start fighting and yelling we turn music on and sing and dance around the house.

  • D & S

    When you communicate properly there is no “stupid” argument. Use positive pro-action, rather than negative reaction. We discussed and decided we don’t want to go to bed angry and we can postpone arguments when we are tired. And we never want to give the other the “silent treatment”

  • Richard and Sarah

    A stupid argument we’ve had was over a postcard I planned to mail to my grandmother while overseas. I was being very indecisive, and we were both very tired. We also discussed how stress and personality differences can lead to stupid arguments. In our particular stupid argument, we both ended up recognizing that we had a very long day and that it was just a postcard. Relaxation and food helped. Recognizing our triggers for arguments has helped in our communication process.

  • Travis and Traci

    Communication is vital to a relationship. It can be tough somtimes but we must learn to talk to each other about all important things no matter how little it may seem. it wasnt really a stupid argument but discussing holiday plans can cause one a huge headache and really it boils down to family and spending time with those you care about most and the rest will fall into place.

  • Chris & Natalia

    We find out that the best moment for us to solve an argument is to calm down and talk abot it right after it happened. Not let the time go by because whenever we do that some small things become big things,and it’s more difficult to talk about then.
    Also, the stress can play very tricky games with our minds. And when we are stuck the only thing that bring us back together is to remember everything we love about each other. Sometimes just to remind the other one why do you love him or her can turn an argument into a helpful discussion.

  • Alan and Alyse

    Alan and I have argued about what was or was not said on a commercial. Although it sounds trivial, it boils down to being invalidated over and over, that you aren’t believed, and that you must prove your statements with facts rather than having meaningful conversations based in trust. This still sometimes happens, but we’ve gotten better about first validating each other, then giving our own opinions rather than immediately disclaiming the other’s.

  • Jennifer and Eden

    This exercise we found useful but at the same time cringe worthy. We felt so ashamed to have argued over such trivial issues. We’ve since long moved on from the argument but this exercise forced us to revisit it and to look at differently. It’s easy to fall prey to a silly argument when we’re tired or after a difficult day at work. We find that it’s important to be able to recognize that sometimes words spoken are not reflective of how that person necessarily feels at the moment. Sometimes the statement is poorly crafted in a tired mind and the other person can mistake its meaning. Knowing how much we love one another and to assume the worse is both destructive and foolish, but very common. I’m probably most guilty of allowing this and this exercise has helped by reminding me to step back and take another look.

  • David and Kara

    As with everyone, we do have stupid arguments. There are several reasons for them, but many times they tend to occur because one of us is tired or hungry. Also we have different opinions on timing, so while one of us may have expectations of doing something right now, the other wants to wait. Another main reason tends to be due to everyday situations that the other person has nothing to do with. If one of us had a bad day at work, or is just frustrated with something small that happened in our day, it tends to carry over. This can cause more irritability and make it easier to have stupid arguments. To avoid these types of arguments, we can communicate better when we are frustrated and let the other person know that we might be on edge but it is not their fault. By communicating more, we can both treat the other accordingly and give them space or love accordingly to calm each other down after a stressful day.

  • Brittany and Josh

    This lesson was very helpful for us. We, like everyone else, have stupid arguments. They happen. Sometimes we just laugh at each other but other times we have to stop and think why we are arguing in the first place. Most of the time our arguments stem from conflicting personality traits. We found that Josh likes to solve the problem immediately and we can’t do anything else until it is solved. I on the other hand like to think about my feelings before expressing them. This more than anything has led to small differences turning into bigger differences. Acknowledging our differences in problem solving has helped us understand each other better and has helped us communicate more effectively . Thanks!

  • Angie and Nick

    We both agree that it’s rare for us to have arguments. We’ve had a few significant disagreements but silly arguments are not something we’ve ever had. I think because we are so much older and we’ve both have had a failed marriage prior that we have learned significantly to let some of the little things go. We have learned that somethings are just not with fighting over. (Who left the toilet seat up, who left a mess in the kitchen, etc.) I have found that we are greatly more aware of our own short comings and where it could cause issues if we are not constantly working on being better people. Learning from past mistakes, always keep each other a priority and stay committed may not be the whole laundry list of positive relationships goals but they certainly help.

  • Eric and Rachael

    We actually had a stupid argument today, over the definition of a specific word. After looking it up, I gloated that I was right. In hindsight, I can definitely see how I could have sounded condescending towards her, which was never my intention. On the car ride home, she brought up why it made her feel that way, and I realized that I could have treated the argument with a lot more grace than I had showed. All in all, I definitely know what I can work on for the future.

    • Angie

      Remodeling our house has made for some short tempers and we have spouted off at each other. Our stupidest arguments came when laying floor. We both work full time and were working to pretty much gut and remodel the house so we were extremely tired and short fused. But thankfully we were able to laugh it off each time and keep on going.

  • Aleah

    We agree that couple’s have stupid arguments and we have had them as well. We recently argued about which setting to run the dishwasher on. We think stupid arguments happen because one person gets short tempered which comes off disrespectful to the other partner. We both are committed to trying not to get short or snap at the other. We do not want to argue about insignificant things.

  • Thomas and Tiffany

    This one related a lot to the previous activity we did, which was perfect because we could stay on the same topic. We both agreed that we don’t really argue hardly at all, and when we do, it’s not very serious. We think the “stupidest” thing we’ve argued over is probably the fact that he never bathed his dog. Tiffany has a small dog whom she regularly takes for grooming or gives an occasional bath to and Thomas has a large dog who never got baths. Thomas didn’t think it was very important just because he never did it before, but having Tiffany suddenly in his life saying that he needs to bathe her made him feel like he was doing something wrong all this time. Therefore, he got a little defensive and we argued about why dogs do or don’t need baths. Thomas moved into Tiffany’s house and he agreed that it was respectful to keep her clean. He now realizes how easy it is just to take the dog to a groomer and now the two dogs go together at the same time to make it even easier. We believe all stupid arguments can be resolved. If it can’t be resolved, then it’s probably not something stupid. We think people have stupid arguments because a lot of are set in our ways. But, it just takes a little give-and-take from both sides. We just make sure to hear each other out and not take offense to anything, especially over something so silly/stupid! We both remember that we love each other and that’s greater than anything “stupid”!

  • Mignon and Jaxon

    We have definitely had our fair share of “stupid” arguments. In fact, most of our fights and arguments are about stupid things. We tend to agree on more topics of actual importance. We have learned to use the “agree to disagree” approach to some problems that feel unsolvable. We also work on compromising when the situation allows. For us, most of these stupid arguments stem from being tired or stress from work. We will work on being more sensitive to eachother’s head space when we feel a stupid fight coming on.

  • Angie

    Remodeling our house has made for some short tempers and we have spouted off at each other. Our stupidest arguments came when laying floor. We both work full time and were working to pretty much gut and remodel the house so we were extremely tired and short fused. But thankfully we were able to laugh it off each time and keep on going.

  • Caroline & Sam

    Majority of the time, Caroline is the one with the short fuse and temper and it usually strikes when she is hungry or tired. The stupidest argument was New Years Day this past year when neither of us had any sleep and we had to drive a rental car from Jacksonville, FL to Miami, FL (7 hours) and Caroline thought the car was going to run out of gas. We eventually laughed about it like we do most stupid arguments. We are very good at hearing each other sides no matter how “stupid” they might be and at the end of each argument we are really good at reminding each other how loved the other is.

  • Bethany and Jesse

    Jesse and I have had plenty of arguments about his driving while we’ve been together. It’s such a stupid argument because he’s not driving recklessly. I just don’t agree with how he always drives.

    We think people have stupid arguments because people aren’t always going to agree on everything, but it’s not like the little things are deal breakers.

    I think we’ll continue to handle these stupid arguments the same. We can both acknowledge and apologize for an argument. We can sometimes make jokes of it. Not the serious arguments obviously, but we like to joke with each other a lot.

  • Jake and Maelee

    We haven’t gotten into a large amount of stupid arguments. Anytime we’ve had a petty issue, we usually end up laughing. Our very different family backgrounds has also been a cause for argument, but over time we have become very aware of that and how to understand the other’s point of view. We also have agreed that we need to establish what we’re going to eat well before either of us gets too hungry, because that can lead to a stupid conflict.

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