Quizzes About Personality for the 4 Personality Types

Page highlights: fun and free 5 minute personality “test”

If you are familiar with the Myers-Briggs Personality Test or similar personality tests, you are familiar with the 4 personality types.

Personality differences are very important areas of concern in relationships, and can be key red flags in a relationships requiring some professional intervention.

Especially is this true of personality disorders – think borderline personality disorder and narcissistic personality disorder as examples.

Further, personalities are often used as the basis for dating services as a key element for matching people up.

However, for this exercise we are more narrowly interested in how couples communicate and express their love to each other given their personalities.

The Exercise:

The following exercise is one I often hear couples say they really enjoy and find fun.

You can do a 5-minute free personality test online that tells you:

  • how to best show love to your partner and,
  • how to communicate to your partner given their unique personality.

We tend to want to love and communicate to our partner in the way we like, rather than the way our partner likes.

This exercise will help you see things from the perspective of the other person – talking to them and loving them in a way that makes sense to them.

Go to the link below for the free personality quiz:


The site does not ask for any of your personal contact information to use its free personality quizzes!


If you are looking for something more than very basic quizzes about personality, there are other tools to examine personality issues in a relationship.

A licensed therapist can help you, though others like myself have used tools like Prepare-Enrich and FOCCUS (Facilitating Open Couple Communication and Understanding) in premarital counseling to explore personality factors. These are both inventories that couples complete, the responses are “scored” and the results sent back to the administrator to use in discussions with the couple.

There are ministers and counselors all across the country trained to use these tools, and unless you live in the boonies, you can probably find one near you.

Yet another resource for the truly brave can be found at www.humanmetrics.com/ This is the Jung Marriage Test and costs $6. It uses the MatchIndex which is used to determine couple compatibility.

A MatchIndex score of less than 62% suggests a not so promising outlook for a successful long-term relationship. You should visit the site itself for a fuller discussion of this tool.

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45 comments to Quizzes About Personality for the 4 Personality Types

  • thomas king and rebecca shreeve

    We see where we are different in our personality types. I (Thomas) tend to be more outgoing and more approachable. Becca is more reserved and it takes her a while to let people in.

  • Wick & Ginny

    Wick’s personality type is dead-on. Ginny’s is the same as it always measures to be (she’s taken the M-B’s several times), and there are parts that are accurate and parts that are not. We can see ways in which we are compatible from the test and each other’s strengths.

  • Lauren & Jon

    This is great! These were pretty dead on for both Jon and I, and it was interesting to see where we had differences and where we were very alike. We are more similar in so many ways than I realized!

  • Stacy is an ENFJ (Extravert, Intuitive, Feeler, Judger).
    Duane is an INTP (Introvert, Intuitive, Thinker, Perceiver).

    We think that this can be good because we can help each other and balance each other out.

  • Christopher and Bethany

    We did the personality test and found these results for ourselves:

    Christopher: You are an ISFJ

    (Introvert, Sensor, Feeler, Judger)

    and Bethany: You are an INFP

    (Introvert, iNtuitive, Feeler, Perceiver)

  • Connie Noward and Barry Thiessen

    Shes an extrovert and I’m an introvert. We feel this personality test was very accurate. We are living proof that opposites attract. One thing I did learn is he likes to start things and I like to finish. That makes alot of sense as to why there are several jobs started around here and not completed. And why he does the dishes and doesn’t finish cleaning the kitchen.

    • Angie and Jim

      I’m an extrovert and he is an introvert. I’m a judger and he’s a mix of both judger and perceive. I’m a thinker he’s a feeler. We are both intuitive.

  • Michelle and Jeff

    We are very similar, we only differ in one area. I am an EINJ and Jeff is an ESNJ. We think alike and we have the same responses to situations (generally).

  • Nancy and Adam

    That personality test was dead on for both of us. We are both very different, but we compliment each other so it all works out.

  • Taryn & Andy

    Loved this exercise! It really was dead on for both of us. Taryn is an ENTP: or as the quiz says: really optimistic, talkative, clever person. She loves excitement and enjoys many different activities.She found it funny that the quiz pointed out that she loves/is fascinated by new ideas and values inspiration.

    Me, personally I was a ISTJ: I’m a bit more serious, I stay quiet and to myself often, I am a bit more realistic and practical. I prefer to think and observe.

    This quiz was very fun on comparing our personalities. Also helped bring us good conversation.

  • Lexi and Aaron

    This quiz was pretty dead-on for both of us. We are both introverted, which shows us that we really have to work on communication. The quiz also said that we are both very loyal, which I found really neat. This was a fun exercise to see how differently we see the world.

  • Michael and Terry

    We both have the same type of personalities. Both are ESJF’s…it was fun to do the personality test and see how we answered for ourselved and our opinion on how we answered for each other! fun

  • Tiffany Baladad and Jack Wilton

    Tiffany ENFP
    Jack ISFJ

    We really enjoyed this one!! From Day 1 Jack and I knew we were complete opposites but one thing we could always agree on was our social tact and conversation skills and our devotion to the people we care about in our lives.
    This exercise demonstrated just that! We are both feelers but different in all the other ways.
    Jack has discovered that because of my “spontaneous” “high burst of energy” and “occasional lack of focus” he has had to let his guard down from being very pragmatic to being more open to all possible options so that together we can have more positive excitement and adventure.
    I have also molded myself in to a more regiment schedule by leaving my job of 6 years in retail to a monday-friday 8-5 job in order to tend to what we want our family lifestyle to be.
    We work well together by always remembering that it’s not a one way road and that we must listen and be attentive to one another in order to find peace with our extreme differences!

  • Brad and Kim

    This personality test was great! I’m an INTJ and Kim is an INFJ. It showed us that we are very much alike, yet we still have the little differences that makes up that much more compatible.

  • Whitney and Collin

    This was a fun exercise…we are very similar in a lot of ways but we are different in a lot of ways as well. Whitney was an ISFJ and Collin was an ISTJ!

  • John and Jessica

    We really enjoyed the personality test. The saying opposites attract came to mind as we chose our answers. Although we did choose opposite responses for the questions, we believe those differences bring about a balance within our relationship.

  • Jessica and Andrew

    We are complete opposites but we already knew this! I suggest the “The 5 Love Languages” book to everyone. It’s a great book to help you learn how your partner feels love and what you can do to make sure they are feeling the love you have for them. Most of us do for our partners what WE need for ourselves but we all have different love languages.

  • Dustin and Katie

    We have very similar personality types. We do have difference though and that is what makes it so fun to be together. Katie is more of an introvert and Dustin is an extrovert; this creates a balance so we’re not always home but not always out.

  • Kimberly M. & Jeff L.

    Kimberly – ESTJ (Extrovert, Sensor, Thinker, Judger)
    Jeff – INFJ (Introvert, Intuitive, Feeler, Judger)

    We both feel like our evaluations were spot on, so it was interesting to see how different we really are. We used this to discuss an area of our ceremony where we had a disagreement and try to see where the other person was coming from to figure out a compromise.

  • Tammy and Duke

    This test showed what our true personalities are, which was spot on…and completely opposite of each other. However, we didn’t find how it would show us how to “talk to them and loving them in a way that makes sense to them.” We have a way of communicating with each other that’s very straight forward, and productive. Even in times where we disagree, or have long discussions, we always find a way to do it with love and compassion.

  • Lindsey and Rhett

    Rhett is an ESTP (Extrovert, Sensor, Thinker, Perceiver) and LIndsey is an INFJ (Introvert, INtuitive, Feeler, Judger). Even though we are exact opposite in many of our personality traits, we feel they compliment one another. This was a fun exercise that reinforced our personality differences. Rhett helps Lindsey to feel more comfortable in social situations and Lindsey helps Rhett to be more timely and tactful. Too much of the same may potentially clash or fight for attention. Win win.

  • Kelly and Larry

    The test was very good at showing our personality types. Kelly is an ISTJ
    (Introvert, Sensor, Thinker, Judger) and Larry is Extrovert, Intuitive, Thinker, Judger. We are learned of our similarities and differences. We believe our differences compliment each other’s personalities.

  • Mary Ann and Christoper Griffiths

    We discovered a lot about each other from the personality test! We are complete opposites. Christopher says we fill the holes in each others lives. He reads directions and I don’t. I am very sympathetic well he is realistic.

  • This personality quiz was right on mark. Roy is the more out going while I on the other hand is more held back and quiet. Roy has no problem getting to know someone quickly while I am more shy and takes me a while to get to know people. This was really fun and we had a lot of laughs

  • John and Meg

    We discovered we have some things in common but also have other traits that differ. We also discovered that one of us is more extreme in our classifications, while the other has a good mix of both sides of each category.

  • Dawn and Mike

    We found that by taking the test we share many of the same traits and characteristcs and yet understand our differnces and respect them. We also realize how we have changed throughout our time together.

  • Raychel and Peter

    While neither of us fully fit into either or choices, both of our personalities were quite similar though I (Raychel picked the “extraverted” column and Peter picked “introverted”. This really was no surprise to either of us.

  • Samantha and Jason

    We are both similar in many areas, but we have learned one of our majors differences is that he’s a planner, while I am a bit more spontaneous. Schedules make me anxious, while he is comforted by them. We’re able to meet each other half way here by incorporating a bit of both into our lives.

  • Shannon Brunner and Jason Lawson

    Well our personalities are totally opposite but over the last 5 and half years we have come to accept that and learn how to love each other more and be more understanding to each other

  • D & S

    We were opposites in every category but one. It was interesting to see and appreciate our differences.

  • Brooke & Lucas

    This personality test proved what we already knew…we are the same person (ESTJ)! We are both outgoing, love to be around people, focused on getting things done, and easy to get to know. Having the same personality makes it easy for us to communicate with one another as we seem to always know what the other is thinking.

  • Richard and Sarah

    Richard and I enjoyed this activity. We’re both Introverted “Judgers.” Richard tends to be a Thinker while I am more of Feeler. Although, we share many similar traits, we are sill two individuals.

  • Amanda & Nate

    Taking this test was very enjoyable. Most interesting was that we both had the exact same personality type: ISFJ. It’s funny because we are so different in so many ways, yet this test shows that when you look at the absolute foundational personality characteristics, we are very much on the same page. That speaks volumes as to why we fell in love in the first place, why we have stayed together so long, and why I think we’ll have such a long and happy marriage!

  • Chris & Natalia

    We laughed out loud!!!! We are completelly opposite. And It couldn´t be a better adventure ( yes It’s me the INFP talking!)
    And He thinks it’s fun too and it completelly make sense hahaha!!! (ISFJ)

    What a great way to Agree!

  • Alyse

    We are both INFP’s, although Alan was right in the middle of both extrovert and introvert qualities, which probably helps me get out of my “box” and be more social or try new things!

  • Emily and Robert

    The extrovert and the introvert fell in love. I’m the helper (ENFJ), he’s the practical one (INTJ). In the end we do have some of the same personality traits and we have learned to love the other pieces of each other’s personalities. It definitely does take some work on each of our parts to work out the introvert/extrovert thing, but ultimately it’s what makes us work.

  • Nicole & Cort

    We are exact opposites. Nicole is an ENFP and Cort is an ISTJ. We actually think this works well because we compliment each other’s weaknesses and it makes us better as a pair. However, it is important for us to be aware of our differences and respect how they may affect our interactions with each other.

  • Kirsten and Matt

    This exercise was spot on and really neat to see just how alike Matt and I are. We’ve always known we have very similar personalities, even our family and friends point this out frequently, but answering every single question the same confirmed it! We are both ISTJ so in a nutshell we are introverted, analytical, reliable and hardworking. In the past I had personally always gravitated toward people that were opposite of me, thinking I needed someone to balance me out. However these relationships never worked out because I couldn’t handle the social requirements and the feeling of being the “responsible one”. Enter Matt, the first fellow ISTJer I’ve ever dated, and it just felt right from the very beginning. Of course at the time I didn’t realize that was why, but it has become obvious over time and this exercise really confirmed it.

  • Aleah

    Brandon is ESTJ while I am ESFJ. We agreed with the results as Brandon is super analytical while I go more off feeling. We are both extroverts but enjoy some time alone. What a fun test!

  • Thomas & Tiffany

    This one was fun for us because we had just been talking about our personality types the day before we took this quiz. Ironically, we are both INFJs (Introvert, Intuitive, Feeling, Judgement)!! INFJ is supposedly the most “rare” personality type and the fact that we both are INFJs is pretty wild to us! We’ve always joked about how we are “the same person” and are so alike. I think this actually works for us because we have the same viewpoints on a lot of things and the fact that we have the same personality type probably explains why we get along so well – because we understand each other’s personality and the way we perceive things. We understand that neither of us really talk about our feelings very often, but when we do, it’s so easy to open up to each other.

  • Aaron & Chelsey

    Aaron was an ENFP and I am an INTJ. Throughout our relationship we’d obviously noticed these little differences, but after taking the quizzes it makes a bit more sense. He works based on feeling and I’m more logical, so we can utilize our differences to analyze various situations and reach a resolution with all considerations in mind.

  • Mignon and Jaxon

    Jaxon got INFP and Mignon got ENTJ. It was interesting to see the differences between us when it comes to our personality type! We only had Intuitive in common. This test definitely helped us understand we ARE different in the way we think.

  • Katie and John

    John and I have taken Myer’s Briggs personality tests before so we thought it would be interesting to take the quiz for each other. I am ISTJ and John is a ESTJ. We were actually pretty accurate when taking the test for each other! We learned the most about how each of our respective personality types reacts to various communication styles within a relationship and future parenthood.

  • Caroline & Sam

    Sam is more detail oriented while Caroline focuses on the big pictures. We definitely had some of the same but the differences equal us out.

  • Bethany and Jesse

    Jesse and I both know we have different personalities. We are similar in some things, but opposites on others. I think we can balance each other out. He can bring me down and straighten me out when I need it sometimes. He thinks I encourage him to be more outgoing and outspoken when needed.

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