You’ve heard of ADD but what about EDD? EDD refers to empathy deficit disorder (as defined by a Washington psychotherapist in the Washington Post). Empathy is the ability to feel at some level what another is experiencing.

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Did you see the story about the wedding in the New York Charmin restroom? The bride wore a white Charmin toilet paper wedding dress. Seems that the bride won a contest and got her wedding paid for. (If you can’t resist, you can watch the video here: Toilet Paper Wedding Dress )

I completely understand a couple’s desire to save money on their wedding.

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Got something today you’ll get a kick out of. I stumbled across these 1950’s marriage preparation films. The one below is called “How do you know it’s love?” You’ll laugh yourself silly at some of this, but when it’s over, ask yourself the question, “How do you know it’s love?”

There are a lot of directions you can take that discussion. Here’s one: I co-officiated a wedding last weekend, and the other minister made this observation: In marriage, there is an evolving relationship between feelings and action. Early on, feelings (of love) lead to action. As the marriage goes along, often the actions are what create the feelings (of love). What do you think?

Enjoy the movie and your discussion. There are two parts, each about 7 minutes long.
Part One



Part Two

No mother-in-law jokes here, but a serious question: Can two women love the same man and still get along? That’s the subtitle of a book by Annie Chapman. The book is The Mother-In-Law-Dance.

Chapman chose that title because she said at first, the mother-in-law and her daughter-in-law may step on one another’s toes. They both have to learn the new dance!

She has advice for both the mother-in-law and her son’s wife.

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What do you do when you have marriage problems? Serious problems? A lot of couples bail. That’s always sad, because I know that in most cases if they hung on, better days would come.

Someone said marriage is like a lilac bush…in the winter it looks dead & lifeless and you might think to uproot it. But if you leave it, next spring it will blossom again.

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Funny YouTube video below about the writer’s strike and marriage. Christina Applegate and “Bob” remind us in a funny way of something not so funny - unemployment. It happens to everyone at some time and can create a lot of stress on a marriage relationship.

Bad things happen to good people. Often bad things happen and we have little control over when and why they happen. Spend time thinking beforehand what strategies you will have to work through difficult times when they come. Meanwhile, enjoy the movie!

The Writer’s Strike, Your Marriage and You

A guy asked this question, “Should I tell my finacee that I was previously married?”

I can only imagine what you are thinking! But listen to the complete question and my answer. It provides an opportunity for you to talk about the importance of honesty in your relationship.

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