Who’s right?
<In marriage and premarital counseling when discussing differences, I will sometimes do this simple demonstration.
I will hold my hand out palm to the groom and bride and ask them to describe it. I then describe my hand from my viewpoint. Our descriptions vary slightly, so I ask which one of us is right. Of course, we are both right, we’re just looking at the same hand from different perspectives.
One of the benefits of listening to our partner is that it helps us see things from their perspective.
Here are some questions you might wish to discuss:
- Is there a subject you’ve been discussing where there is no right or wrong?
- How does remembering this principle of “perspective” help in a marriage?
- What are some areas in which men and women have different perspectives?
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October 9th, 2007 20:59
we tend to have a lot of differences in our lives together, and sometimes we may fight about them. neither of us right because we don’t see it from each others perspective. but no matter what happens, we always see these things(our differences), and work them out as best as we can.
December 22nd, 2007 18:07
i think this is all very true we do to explain our differances and try to resolve them as easily as possible without feelings being hurt
January 12th, 2008 15:24
we feel that we have we have very different perspectives of how things should be done. or how we should react to ceratin situations. We need to work on the common goal verses the road we take. as long as we are working together we are both right.
February 19th, 2008 16:54
this is so true! we so often go back after an argument and see that neither of us was wrong…or when we argue the same thing is said “why cant you just see things from my side for once!” we are doing better with this though.
February 24th, 2008 13:50
We sometime have differet opinions about discipline of our children…..we have the same ideals just different ideas on consequence.
April 6th, 2008 12:14
We have had disagreements. They way we end up resolving them is to stop and look from the other’s point of view. Then try to decide what to do. But ultimately we just want our mate to be happy.