It’s important to keep your relationship positive & loving.

This exercise further helps you to express to your partner how you are made to feel cared for. This keeps your partner from having to guess (and maybe guessing wrong) about what you appreciate most.

Each of you complete the statement “I feel loved by you when you…” below. Write down 3-5 things your partner can do.

Once you’ve both written down your responses, share your list with your partner. Discuss and explain if necessary, but most importantly do the things your partner has listed . . . and enjoy!

NOTICE! As you write down your responses apply these principles:

• Keep it positive. Don’t write, “I feel loved when you don’t nag me.” Instead, “I feel loved when you remember to call me during the day” or “I feel loved when you tell me you love me.”

• Make the cost of the behavior free or inexpensive. Not “I feel loved when you buy me jewelry” but, “I feel loved when you rub my back” or “I feel loved when you bring me a romantic card”

• Choose something that can happen every day or with some frequency. “I feel loved when you kiss me hello and/or good-bye” or “I feel loved when you compliment me on my appearance.”

“His” I feel loved by you when you . . .

1. _______________________________________________________

2. _______________________________________________________

3. _______________________________________________________

4. _______________________________________________________

5. _______________________________________________________

“Hers” I feel loved by you when you . . .

1. _______________________________________________________

2. _______________________________________________________

3. _______________________________________________________

4. _______________________________________________________

5. _______________________________________________________

“A diplomat is a man who always remembers a woman’s birthday but never her age”

“Women like silent men. They think they are listening.”

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